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Contemplating these two statistics, truly highlights the awesome responsibility we as parents and loved ones take on, when we accept a new child into our lives!  To grasp that 95% of my beliefs as a 41 year old woman, of your beliefs and the beliefs of every other adult you know, were all programmed into our energetic body (or crystalline matrix) by the age of seven is astounding!  To then comprehend that these beliefs have been shaping and moulding our lives and experiences since that young age is quite simply remarkable!  Wow it’s profound and so it should be, because it truly highlights just how vitally important it is that we create positive, affirming, empowering and energetically clear environments, activities and social interactions for our new frequency children, especially during the first seven informative years of their precious lives. 

… And 90-95% of our daily living experience is created via our ‘Unconscious Mind’….

 

I am certain that being aware of this information will inspire everyone associated with a new frequency child to really be conscious of the messages being delivered to their children via even the simplest communications and activities they undertake.  With this dedication and commitment we will ensure that we gift to our children balanced, empowered and enlightened beliefs that will support them to embrace their amazing infinite soul potential and heal our world.

In this article I take a real world look at this topic.  Firstly I describe my personal journey of healing and revelation that bought the importance of this topic to my attention.  Then I will look at the direct and profound impact this revelation has had on my parenting style and make some valuable recommendations for all other conscious parents.  I believe that in applying this information we can all powerfully support our children, creating an exciting opportunity to positively impact our world through the beliefs of the next generation of enlightened souls now entering our planet, it starts right now in this moment.

MY HEALING REVELATION

I recently had a holographic reprogramming session relating to a belief that quite frankly had been really bugging me, a belief that I felt was now holding me back in my path of service!  The belief was a “fear of being judged negatively, and even rejected, for communicating my emotions, as well as for my unintentional communications.”

What a fellow Crystal Light Healing Practitioner and I discovered at the core of this unhealthy belief, was so enlightening to me, that it has inspired this article.  No accident that at the time of this healing session my daughter Sheannah was eight and a half months old, as you will see.

What I discovered as the “seed” of this belief was created when I was myself between 8 and 9 months old (“seed” means the original event that created this belief to be planted into my crystalline matrix, and thereafter affirmed and cemented there, reflecting out into my life and creating my reality on the odd occasion).  It was created by my mother, absolutely unintentionally of course.  Furthermore I am certain it was the result of this same belief being seeded within her as a child, by her mother…. This is how we pass on so many wounds, patterns and beliefs through the generations.

At 8 months old, I was discovering my voice, making resonant and loud sounds, all different kinds of sounds (just like my daughter is doing now).  I was also frustrated by my physical and communicative limitations.  My mother was extra tired because she had recently fallen pregnant with my first younger brother.  She started trying to mould my behaviour to create a more “harmonious” environment and to socialise me (or protect me from the judgement of others).  So like most mothers and fathers she would say things like “Play quietly”, “don’t make that noise it is not nice”, “naughty girl don’t squeal/growl/whinge”, “people will think you are a bad girl”, “you will not make friends with those noises”, “don’t pull that face it is ugly”, “sit still, don’t wiggle”, “be patient”…. We’ve all heard our parents and others say these things to young children and lets face it we’ve said them ourselves!

What I discovered in my session in relation to these communications was remarkable….  You see as a baby I was exploring expression, I was revelling in the resonance of sound and my newfound freedoms in movement, I was expressing my frustration at times too…. And then WHACK for reasons I do not understand at 8 months old, from my perception I am being judged as ‘bad’, ‘not good enough’, ‘unattractive’, ‘not likeable’, ‘unworthy’ – just for expressing my true feelings in the only way I knew how.  It felt really bad to experience my mother/fathers discontent with me, as a very sensitive child it really hurt.   So like all children I tried to make them happy even at that baby age, moulding my behaviour, suppressing my communication.  Deep within me this seeded a belief that ‘I was not safe to truly express my real emotions’ – and this belief has lived with me until now!  With the wisdom of retrospect, I can now see how this belief has impacted my life, my self-confidence and my relationships dramatically -  and how to a large extent it contributed to patterns of abuse and a ‘nervous break-through’ that I experienced as a young single mother at the age of 27.  Wow, it is huge!

To make it clear – I am not judging my parents here at all!  I love them dearly and they have been wonderful parents.  They were parenting to the best of their ability, operating from their hearts and knowledge (as I might add I have done with my two older children who are now 18 and 20).

What I am saying is that I have learned something profound and it has made me STOP IN MY TRACKS and change my parenting style.  I intend from this moment forth to never suppress or judge my new baby Sheannah’s beautiful, freeform, often loud, always carefree verbal and physical expression. 

HOW MY REVELATION HAS CHANGED THE WAY I PARENT

For a few weeks leading up to my healing revelation, I had been feeling an internal discomfort arise when I was trying to discipline Sheannah in relation to her vocal nature.  I recognise this discomfort as a sign I need to learn something, so I had been contemplating the situation to try and find what it was I was meant to be ‘getting’.  As so often happens when I turn my consciousness to a question, Spirit supported me by creating a situation to highlight the issue – ‘my belief’.  Better still, as a healer, I had the tools at my disposal to embrace a healing journey to identify the ‘seed’ of this belief and then clear it.   The process not only answered my question, but opened my consciousness soooooo much in relation to how I should be supporting my 8 month old daughter and this I am guided to share.

Sheannah has always been a vocal baby, she said her first word ‘hello’ at only 4 weeks. She communicates with great joy most of the time, enchanting those she meets.  Then there is her other vocal self that squeals at a remarkably high pitch, tones, growls at times when there is a lot of energy around, cries and demands very forcefully when she feels she needs to, some of the faces she can pull show how strong willed and determined she is, it can be daunting.  It is this latter behaviour that has created fear in me at times and I have struggled with how to deal with it at this young age….

I guess I had invested a great deal of effort to ensure my baby came in on her highest template and in the most peaceful and supportive environment (home birth, lotus birth  etc) – expecting a ZEN baby… and a ZEN baby is definitely not what the stork delivered.  Rather the stalk delivered a perfect, healthy and enlightened baby with Sheannah’s vibrant, magnetic, active, determined and intelligent personality.  My daughter clearly demonstrates that she has a mission and she intends to achieve it.  So my husband and I have had to let the ZEN baby vision go and adjust accordingly in order to best support her.

What I discovered in my healing journey was that the discomfort I had been feeling in relation to her honest and boisterous communications – particularly when she was frustrated, unhappy or over excited – turns out to have been all about me!  As you have seen I believed it wasn’t safe to communicate my true emotions freely, for fear of judgement and rejection.  It is because of this deeply seeded belief that I had started to try and control my daughter, which would ultimately have seeded the same belief in her! 

I was being triggered on several levels, I was afraid others would judge me because of my daughters communication style, but even more significantly I was afraid that my daughter would be judged by society and struggle in her life because of it.  This unconscious fear had got to the point that I found myself on several occasions actually moving to put my hand over my daughters mouth when she was getting too loud in public (I stopped myself of course).  However each time this happened it was showing me there was something I needed to look into – and I was listening.

My healing revelation, has shown me that there is a pattern in my family line, as there is in many I would think, of suppressing truly FREE communication, based upon a belief that it is necessary to socialise a child and make them “acceptable” within the family and the community.

I had been starting to instil this belief and pattern into my beautiful new frequency child – the next generation.  I am so very grateful to the guidance we all receive as parents of new frequency children that has gifted me this profound insight.  I have had the opportunity to reprogram the belief in myself, ensure that it is not installed in my daughter and as a result I INTEND to change this belief pattern in my family line from here forward.  It starts now, with Sheannah and I.

APPLYING THIS LEARNING – VALUABLE RECOMMENDATION TO ALL PARENTS

I want to be very clear, that I am not suggesting that we as parents, give our new frequency children free reign with no guidance or direction!  Rather the opposite, we are here to help them to learn and grow, to evolve into valuable members and leaders in the more enlightened society that is now evolving on Earth.   The new frequency children are precious souls embracing a human journey.  Despite their higher frequencies they all have their lessons to learn, their weaknesses and strengths.  With our conscious support, guidance and discipline, they will emerge brilliantly embracing their fullest soul potential, birthing a new world era.

So how have I applied my learning and how can this support all parents and loved ones of new frequency children.

Well today when I hear Sheannah communicate in a way that once would have caused me discomfort, I say things like:

• “that is a beautiful resonance sweat heart”, or
• “are you feeling frustrated sweat heart”

honouring her communication, listening to her and supporting her.  If necessary I may offer guidance by suggesting that it would be best if she expresses herself in a more considerate fashion for example:

•  “perhaps you could go into your room to make that noise”  or
•  “can you wait till your daddy has finished talking to me”
•  “it is a good idea to be quite when a movie is on”

Furthermore – I have vowed never again to judge Sheannah as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ because of the way she is communicating or anything else she may be doing.  I want her to know she is GOOD always, because she is a CHILD OF GOD.  Nothing she does or doesn’t do will make her anything less than GOOD – the Law of Polarity applies.

So instead of saying ‘good girl’ which seems to slip out so easily!  I have had to get more descriptive for example I say:

•  “that’s fantastic, great walking”,
•  “that is a beautiful way to speak” or 
•  “great sharing”…

I do hope you have enjoyed this rather long, but very important article.  I have only been able to write it directly from my heart to yours, because its topic is so personal to me.  This is why I could not make it any shorter for you – for concern that the many levels of information would be lost in translation.

I send you much love, light and support on the wonderful journey we are all sharing as parents of the precious souls that are the new frequency children.

BE-LOVED AND BE-FREE

Kyrona Unity Hope

© Kyrona Unity Hope, November 2009

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